Eighth House: Healer Versus Healed

We all have experienced pain or betrayal at some time in our lives. The bitter sting of loss and heartbreak hits us at the core. The moments you feel like you will never be able to get up or out of bed to move on. The thing I love most about the eighth house person is that we are survivors. We are strong and I give credit to the energy of Scorpio for our ability to recover. We eventually feel anger, and that anger pushes us to survive and to stand up and get out of bed. We find the strength to rise and face the cold world again.


As eighth house people we can’t bear to lose or to let those that hurt us or betray us win or keep us down. We rise. We rise up and survive because it is what we were born to do. It is what we do best. We rise like the Phoenix out of the ashes of heartache, betrayal, abuse and dismay. We rise up stronger and eager to face the world again.


We were born to feel. We were born to heal. We were meant to feel wounded, hurt, betrayed, victimized, belittled, abused, cursed and accused. We had to experience all the darker sides of human nature in the eyes or arms of someone we trusted. Why? Without that type of experience we would not fulfill our soul mission and destiny. We would not be able to be called healers or to help heal others. It is through experiencing pain that we feel and grow.


It is through experiencing deep hurt that we can truly understand the pain of others. The eighth house person is meant to delve into and dive deep into the emotional waters and experience all the deeper emotions under the surface. By experiencing these deeper emotions we become aware of others pain, not just our own. When we swim back to the surface we are renewed, transformed and regenerated. We are ready to heal the world.


We attract the wounded like a magnet. Even those who do not realize that they are wounded or in need of healing will find their way into an eighth house person’s life. They instinctively know that we can help them with their pain. I have found from a young age that people would come up and tell me all their secrets and problems. Even total strangers in the grocery store would come up and tell me deep, dark, mysterious things.


Once in a candy isle an older woman approached me and just blurted out, “My dad just died.” Shockingly caught off guard about what she said, she apologized. I calmly told her that I was sorry for her loss. After this experience and many others like it, I realized there was something different about my energy.


I began to research the eighth house and interviewed many people with planets in the eighth house. I found kindred spirits and people who had also experienced wounding and similar experiences like mine. I learned more about myself from them and the hidden destiny of an eighth house person. The destiny is that of a healer.


I find that eighth house people are naturally good at healing others, but often neglect their own healing. They repress and hide their own wounds to enable themselves to heal others. They become wounded healers. Many eighth house people heal others although they themselves hide deep within their own secret pain.


This hiding will work awhile for an eighth house person and maybe for many years, until something will trigger or unleash what is hidden within to come to the surface to be faced. Like Pandora’s box being opened for the first time, everything we don’t want to see will be released.


It was recently that I learned something about myself. There is no greater feeling than the feeling you get when you truly feel you have helped someone heal. That awareness and deep exchange is beyond words. I lived for that. I lived to serve and experience the satisfaction of healing others. What I did not realize was the immense release and unconditional peace that could come when we allow others to heal us.


When we are blessed and encounter a special person who touches our eighth house planets and awakens our own pain, but at the same time lifts it without them even knowing it, this creates a process of deep healing within us.


I was lucky enough to meet someone who has helped me heal my eighth house energy, merely by listening and being there for me. Exchanging energy and music this person has their Venus and Jupiter conjunct my planets in eighth house. This energy has transformed my pain and helped me grieve and release the past faster than I could have on my own. To this person, I will always be grateful and they will hold a special place in my heart. I realized that eighth house people must allow themselves to open up to others and experience intimacy. By truly being vulnerable with another person and truly allowing someone into our lives and heart we can heal our own pain. We can’t do it alone. We need others to be a catalyst for our own healing. Just as we are known as the catalyst for other people’s healing. We take the risk of being hurt, but that is the mission of the eighth house person. To take risks and be vulnerable is being strong.


I am thankful for the special person in my life that touched my eighth house planets and helped me in a deeper way than I could ever repay. We are healers, but there is no greater feeling than that of being healed.